Leading with Empathy - Step #5
As we create transformative change for your case, we must lead with our moral power; this is not a formal power in the case, but rather an informal power.
It's easy to say you want to change, many people quit smoking, decide to lose weight, stop drinking, stop usage of drugs, but as time goes by, and life becomes challenging, the person will revert to old habits. We need to make the fundamental choice to make sacrifices during difficult times; this is where the real growth comes from.
Using our moral power, we can become magnets of attraction where we are fully aligned on our principles and purpose; we can attract others to adopt our purpose and change. The prosecutor and judge will doubt you, but if we can shift all parties to the collective good with aligned interests, we can achieve the best outcome.
We want to unify all parties, and we are willing to make the fundamental decision and energy; we want to be vulnerable and share our values; we ask to be held accountable for change, and as we live by those principles, we attract others to the collective good of your future.
Moral power creates freedom and brings down anxiety and stress. When you can walk away from the past, and become a change leader for your life, and focus on the present and future, you have transformed the case, and you are free.
Real life example of moral power being the key to freedom
I work with clients who can't eat or sleep because their criminal case totally consumes their life. I don't blame them for feeling this way at first, because their case is sitting at the courthouse and viewed as a name and charge without any additional information. The client has no formal power, so the case feels heavy and unpredictable, and that is no way to live.
My clients go beyond saying they want to change, they make a fundamental shift in their daily life to accomplish their goals; when you're prepared, you feel better about achieving your goals; my clients work on their case every single day and go to bed feeling like they made a difference in their case.
It is not easy to make major changes in your life, and many clients have hiccups and struggles as they create real change; I encourage these clients that it’s not supposed to be easy, it's supposed to be challenging, because real breakthrough takes hard work, and sacrifices.
I've had busy professionals who worked 14-hour days, somehow fit in 3x alcohol tests per day, attend an AA meeting and do a counseling session all while keeping up with their career and family. When a client creates transformative change, they realize that the tough work in the present is well worth it if they can replace what happened in the past with the hard work in the present.
When you're charged with a crime, you're not checking into the Ritz, you're not hiring an attorney to replace the crime you committed. The clients that hire me are choosing a transformative experience to their criminal case, where together we can put together a comprehensive plan to create a collective good which invites the judge, prosecutor, judge and probation into our newly created reality.